Here are some ideas for using sex toys as a couple. Believe it or not, they can be the spark that your relationship needed.
Is using sex toys as a couple a sign of imagination and disinhibition or crisis? Although it is a taboo subject for many, exploring sexuality individually and as part of a relationship’s own practices is healthy.
Devices and dynamics designed to raise the temperature in the bedroom are more than welcome. And since the rise of erotic literature, with sagas like Fifty Shadows of Grey, sex toys have made their way into millions of beds around the world.
So much so that the sex toy industry will surpass 50 billion dollars by 2020. Contrary to popular belief, it is not all about emulating sex through pieces that imitate parts of the human body: there are as many toys as there are sexual fantasies.
The key is to find the one that best adapts to the search for enjoyment either in company or alone. In this article we will focus on sex toys to enjoy with your partner.
Sex toys in couples: breaking the myth
The idea that a couple living to the fullest extent of their sexuality does not need additives is both misleading and harmful. When respect, trust and communication are present as the cornerstone of a relationship, a very complex sexual universe opens up that allows us to keep the flame alive and where the only rule in force is that everything, or almost everything, is valid.
According to a team of psychologists specialized in sexuality, sex toys are a complement that can contribute ingenuity from the early stages of the relationship. You don’t have to wait for your “coolness” to innovate: that fun, curiosity and learning are among the bases of your intimacy will help you to keep sexual desire active and avoid the aches and pains of routine.
Not only toys, but also games
Suppose you have decided to take the step of incorporating some sex toys into couple sex. But it’s not all about getting a couple of pieces to have dead bodies of boredom in a drawer or just basic use that their own shape suggests.
When you think about this aspect of sex, don’t just focus on the toys you have, but on creating erotic games that can turn sexual practice into a moment to combine passion with lots of creativity and, why not, some laughter.
To do this, here are some basic rules that can serve as an idea to invent your own repertoire of games:
Questions and answers: suitable for the most cultured. In the market there are lots of sex toys in the Clue style. If no one fits you, with almost any toy you can create a dynamic in which, if one question is answered correctly, you can move on to the next one; if not, you must interact with the toy as a sign of punishment.
See and don’t touch: ideal for raising the temperature to the maximum. In this case the idea is that one of the partners can observe the other partner interacting with the toys, but without being able to have physical contact, see who gives up first!
Random pure and hard: perfect for the most juicy ones. Try filling a cloth bag with lots of pieces of paper, some marked and some not. Start taking the papers in turns and every time one of them is marked, surprise! Whoever wins will be able to tell your partner to do something concrete with the toys you have available.
Sex toys beyond sex
Once toys and sex games come into your life, make sure they enter fully, don’t chain them to mere sexual practice. Think that these elements have come to keep the flame alive in your relationship, but they cannot achieve it on their own. You have a responsibility to make the most of them.
What can you do to make this happen?
The possibilities are endless but try, for example, to take pictures of the toys you have available. At any time of the day, any day of the week, you can send one or more of these photos to your partner telling him/her how much you want the day to go by soon and you can see each other at home.
If you don’t have sex toys to “sting” your partner, don’t be discouraged!
Instead of seeing a crisis, you can see an opportunity: create a wish list with your partner where everyone can add the toys they would like to have. This will not only be fun and activate your imagination, but it will help you out of trouble if at some point you don’t know what to give away.
In addition, you can have a piggy bank to save money together to make some of the toys on your list, either because it is the one you both want the most, or because you submit it to a draw.
Toys that are not toys
If, in spite of knowing the advantages of sex toys to strengthen the bond of the couple, you can not afford them, you still find it difficult to take the step or think that your partner may be reluctant to the possibility of incorporating them into your routine, do not despair.
Imagination has no limits and you sure have a great creativity in your favor. There are countless sex games that do not require large outlays and do not involve objects that may seem taboo.
Start by posing feasible sex games with things you have at home: a satin ribbon to tie your partner’s hands, a bottle of syrup to sweeten the subject, leaving sticky notes at home with challenges to be met together, an upturned phrase painted with lipstick on the mirror… Everything goes to reinvent your intimacy, so don’t cut yourself off and do it!